Actress’ Foluke Daramola’s husband, Kayode
Salako in a recent interview disclosed that he
consulted 65 pastors before he married the
actress.
Read excerpts below:
On being skeptical when he wanted to marry a
divorcee since he was also divorced at that
time?
“I did not fancy Nigerian actresses. When I met
Foluke, she never proved to me that she was the
stereotypical actress. She is a very good cook,
washes my underwear, she is homely and not
outgoing. In fact, I now prod her to go out. She
prefers to be at home with her husband and the
children. She is very reasonable, mentally
upright, focus and ambitious. She is godly and
she can recite 25 psalms in the Bible off hand.
She is not money conscious, fun to be with and
till date, we still live as friends. We have many
things in common. We are activists, we both
believe in fighting for our rights.”
Any reaction from his family?
I wasn’t expecting to marry a perfect woman. I
have decided to be her father, her boss, her
friend, and a teacher. When I was getting
married, I told everyone in my family to go all
out and make inquiries if she is my wife. I
consulted about 65 pastors before I made up my
mind on her.”
Who apologises when there is a
misunderstanding?
Foluke, the mother of two replied, “I was in a
marriage before, so making amends when there
is a wrong is no problem. Most of the time, I
say, ‘I’m sorry,’ it does not cost anything to
apologise. If not given, it can degenerate to
anything. Fortunately, he does not suffer from
inferiority complex. The kind of upbringing I have
is contentment and love. I want to have my
husband, children and run my home. When we
were about getting married, my father-in-law
was skeptical and some of his siblings. I made
everybody realise that acting is a profession,
which I happen to find myself.”
Kayode said, “Foluke is stubbornly reasonable
but quick to accept her fault. She kneels down
and apologises and sometimes, sheds tears to
show she is indeed sorry. I love her very much,
she is like my baby and I don’t fail to tell her
when she is wrong. Our quarrel doesn’t last an
hour. We are not in this marriage by accident but
by the will of God.”
So, what makes a marriage successful?
Kayode tendered, “Maintain that channel of
communication. Discuss it all because when you
don’t tell her she might not know. Secondly,
understand each other. Know your wife and who
she is. You must also be friends. Also, a man
should learn to overlook especially if you are
married to a celebrity. I read a book where a
writer said nothing is a problem, only thinking
makes it so. If you attach meanings to every
issue, marriage heads for the rocks. Not all the
time should you overlook but when you want to
make a complaint let it be in the confines of your
bedroom. Let the man be mentally mature too
and be confident in himself. Also, learn to share.
A man should not allow his wife do all the
chores and he wants to share her money with
her, it fails. She is not your slave, she is a
human being that deserves happiness.”
Foluke said, “The woman is motivated by what
she hears and the man, what he sees. Women
make the mistake of not spicing up their
marriage. What are those things that attracted
him to you? Then, don’t stop. He loves my legs
and I wear short skirts at home for him. You
have to put your man on his toes. Read books
and know what excite your marriage. Also, men
don’t tell their wives ‘I love you.’ Pay her
compliments. I wash his undies, cook special
diet. In fact, celebs go the extra mile to make a
marriage work. We try to pamper, make men feel
special and want homes. We need confident
men. Take care of your man. Say, ‘I love you’.
My husband tells me every morning, ‘I love you.’
Actress’ Foluke Daramola’s husband, Kayode
Salako in a recent interview disclosed that he
consulted 65 pastors before he married the
actress.
Read excerpts below:
On being skeptical when he wanted to marry a
divorcee since he was also divorced at that
time?
“I did not fancy Nigerian actresses. When I met
Foluke, she never proved to me that she was the
stereotypical actress. She is a very good cook,
washes my underwear, she is homely and not
outgoing. In fact, I now prod her to go out. She
prefers to be at home with her husband and the
children. She is very reasonable, mentally
upright, focus and ambitious. She is godly and
she can recite 25 psalms in the Bible off hand.
She is not money conscious, fun to be with and
till date, we still live as friends. We have many
things in common. We are activists, we both
believe in fighting for our rights.”
Any reaction from his family?
I wasn’t expecting to marry a perfect woman. I
have decided to be her father, her boss, her
friend, and a teacher. When I was getting
married, I told everyone in my family to go all
out and make inquiries if she is my wife. I
consulted about 65 pastors before I made up my
mind on her.”
Who apologises when there is a
misunderstanding?
Foluke, the mother of two replied, “I was in a
marriage before, so making amends when there
is a wrong is no problem. Most of the time, I
say, ‘I’m sorry,’ it does not cost anything to
apologise. If not given, it can degenerate to
anything. Fortunately, he does not suffer from
inferiority complex. The kind of upbringing I have
is contentment and love. I want to have my
husband, children and run my home. When we
were about getting married, my father-in-law
was skeptical and some of his siblings. I made
everybody realise that acting is a profession,
which I happen to find myself.”
Kayode said, “Foluke is stubbornly reasonable
but quick to accept her fault. She kneels down
and apologises and sometimes, sheds tears to
show she is indeed sorry. I love her very much,
she is like my baby and I don’t fail to tell her
when she is wrong. Our quarrel doesn’t last an
hour. We are not in this marriage by accident but
by the will of God.”
So, what makes a marriage successful?
Kayode tendered, “Maintain that channel of
communication. Discuss it all because when you
don’t tell her she might not know. Secondly,
understand each other. Know your wife and who
she is. You must also be friends. Also, a man
should learn to overlook especially if you are
married to a celebrity. I read a book where a
writer said nothing is a problem, only thinking
makes it so. If you attach meanings to every
issue, marriage heads for the rocks. Not all the
time should you overlook but when you want to
make a complaint let it be in the confines of your
bedroom. Let the man be mentally mature too
and be confident in himself. Also, learn to share.
A man should not allow his wife do all the
chores and he wants to share her money with
her, it fails. She is not your slave, she is a
human being that deserves happiness.”
Foluke said, “The woman is motivated by what
she hears and the man, what he sees. Women
make the mistake of not spicing up their
marriage. What are those things that attracted
him to you? Then, don’t stop. He loves my legs
and I wear short skirts at home for him. You
have to put your man on his toes. Read books
and know what excite your marriage. Also, men
don’t tell their wives ‘I love you.’ Pay her
compliments. I wash his undies, cook special
diet. In fact, celebs go the extra mile to make a
marriage work. We try to pamper, make men feel
special and want homes. We need confident
men. Take care of your man. Say, ‘I love you’.
My husband tells me every morning, ‘I love you.’
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